One of my mantras is that THERE’S NOTHING BROKEN IN YOU…NOTHING TO FIX!
I typically then coach others and myself around accepting and evolving into more of who YOU/THEY really are.
Deep in there where it counts.
So when I came across this quote on Pinterest awhile back, at first I didn’t agree with the “flaws” part of it.
clarifying “oh geez, YES!” kind of way.
I recently had the opportunity (ahem) to share space with, (insert “opt-out” options not available),
someone that doesn’t care for me much.
(a lot of muches)!
For several hours.
What I found fascinating is that I relaxed, stayed in my own business, (which in short means I did not get in their head and make up crazy crap that I thought they were thinking), and just carried on a somewhat normal conversation. Which also means for me that I was fairly transparent. If you know me, you are aware that this is my normal personality. Open, transparent and honest with my life happenings. The only time I am not this way is if I allow someone or a situation to intimidate me, or I’m just in introvert re-fueling mode.
So after this “sharing of space”, a loved one became concerned that I had revealed too much. Allowed myself to become too vulnerable to the “one who doesn’t care much(s) for me”.
I responded “It doesn’t matter”
Their mouth fell open
“No, really…it no longer matters to me what is done with any revealed transparency that transpired during the conversation. “
Historically, this issue has “eaten my lunch”. People-approval addict that I have been in my life.
But I’m comfortable with me now. All of me…perceived (by others) flaws and all.
Most of the time…Yes, I still have moments and phases of relapse like everyone else.
So when I saw this quote on Pinterest, it so concisely said exactly what happened that day that I had to share this.
What can anyone do to you if you have accepted every part of who you are?
Once I thought about it and related it to this latest incident, I was astounded at how accurate it is.
Even those parts of me that my inner critic loves to pick on, I have learned to wave my hands at and profoundly proclaim
Mostly because I am aware that my growth, beauty, self awareness, cultural awareness, intellectual pursuits, integrity, and presentation of myself, will evolve…or it won’t, in its own time, as I continue to live and love the life I’m creating.
And I’m ok with where I am in that process.
Regardless of any investigative flaw seeking happening around me.
***disclaimer*** I do however, reserve the right to have a “bitch session”, rant and rave with my closest of friends, the audacity of some people to pick others apart, and moan miserably that I had to endure the
“no opt-out” incident.
Oh…and…this doesn’t apply to someone “investigative flaw seeking” those I love. It then becomes “GURL…hold my earrings!”
just kidding…kind of